Hello everyone – well I’m in the middle of a pile of cardboard boxes, dollies, and carts. Yes, I’m moving and it’s been exciting to be going to a bigger place but also takes focus. So rather than delay – here’s a short post with a great audio from Tulshi Sen.
By the way, do you remember the little boy in my yoga class who was feeling bullied. As I told you in Part One – he doesn’t know what to do about the bully except to start, as he puts it, “being bad too.”
What are the tools to deal with the bully?
He’s actually onto something by being bad too …. he does realize that he needs to change his thinking if he wants to change the situation. But it’s not exactly the Bee kind of thinking we’re going for.
Being bad actually gets him attention, from me and his mom and probably some of his other teachers. At least that attention did help change things. When I saw him at class the week after our talk, he was behaving like his fun self. At the end of class he, his mom, and I sat down on the bench again. She told me she saw her son talking to the “bully” by the school bus. They were actually having a pleasant conversation!
So again he’s changed his thinking to look for ways to connect with the bully – and it seems to be making the situation better. When I asked the boy, he said, “It’s okay.”
Well, it’s not exactly an earth shattering response, but internally going from bad to okay is a step in the right direction. I told him how proud I was of him. He’s really putting his mind to resolving the situation.
We know this doesn’t just happen to six year old boys! It happens to people of all ages. If we feel trapped in a job, stuck in a relationship that is not working, or how about when we don’t like the way we look.
How do we counter this type of thinking? Listen to this audio – if you don’t realize you need a change of thinking how can it happen.
with Tulshi Sen
When we feel things are out of our control, we have to take charge of our thinking. The easiest way to do it is through meditation. It helps us find new options, it helps us remember we’re not trapped like a worm stuck in the muck.
Most Kid’s Love Meditation when they Realize Why they Do It
When we introduce meditation in a kids yoga class, find a way to explain the benefits of meditation. For instance, you could tell them the story from the audio and ask the kids what they want to think like: a worm, a fly, or a bee.
Kid’s won’t do meditation meditation if they’re just told they are supposed to, it has to give them results. If they know it helps relieve worries or find a solution to a problem then they’ll be interested. Once they learn, I often hear parents say they find their kids meditating at home- on their own. One mom asked he son what he was doing sitting on his bed with his eyes closed. He said, “I’m just getting rid of some of my sad thoughts.”
Kids will just do it. They just sit down and meditate for a few minutes when they aren’t feeling good. Adults often wait for yoga class to meditate. But there’s no need to wait to change your thinking.
Why live with Anxiety any longer than you have to?
P.S. I teach kids the meditations fromAncient Secrets of Success for Today’s World – they are the ones mentioned in the audio with Tulshi Sen. I like them because they are given in English and Sanskrit so the children understand what they are saying. Plus they are not “religious sounding” they are universal principles. This way they can be used in schools and daycares as well as yoga studios.
How many people out there teach kids about meditation as part of yoga? I’d love to hear your comments – there are many great ways to introduce meditation to kids.