Last week in my kids’ yoga class one of the boys was acting unusually defiant. He was acting out and not following the rules to the point where he ended up crashing into one of the other kids in the class. No one was permanently injured – but he was not happy to be sitting out for part of the game we were playing.
This was near the end of the class, so when we finished he left the yoga class sullen. He slumped onto the bench beside his mom who was picking him up. Of course she wanted to know what was wrong and I joined in to talk about what was happening.
It turned out my student was having trouble with one of the other kids at school who they called a Bully. The bully was making fun of my student because he sometimes stutters. Plus the bully was always telling everyone what to do and generally trying to be the boss of the whole soccer game at recess.
No one likes the bully!
My student, who not only has the stutter going on but is a small sized kid too, especially dislikes the bully . He couldn’t think of one nice thing to say about that kid (I asked if there was one – nope there wasn’t).
It turns out my student has been getting more and more upset with this situation. He told me, “I’m just going to be bad too.” This is his solution, he was becoming a bully too. He wasn’t open to any other suggestions nor did he care about the consequences.
But his mood lifted as he talked about it and as he headed off home I told him I wanted to hear how it was going next week.
It got me to thinking how so many of our problems are caused by thinking of what we don’t like, and even starting to become like it! Like the audio below says – we become like a fly who will sit on a beautiful cupcake, then sit on a pile of manure. Like my student – what is good thinking and what is bad thinking is lost on the fly.
In Part One of this post about Kids and Anxiety lets examine what thought is. This 7 minute audio from my meditation teacher, Tulshi Sen, gives a poignant story that you can tell the kids.
The Three Types of Thinking: Worm, Fly, & Bee
Kids will contemplate what kind of thinking they do.
by Tulshi Sen (7 min, 56 sec)
In Part Two I’ll update you on the progress of my student and the bully and pass on Part Two of the audio as well.
We know, when kids don’t figure out how to deal with bullies – they end up facing them over and over again. Many kids who are bullied and switch schools to deal with it, end up being bullied at the new school as well.
Let’s examine what can empower kids to handle the situation for themselves.Aruna Humphrys
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