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Worm, Fly, & Bee Thinking
Audio Story Below with Tulshi Sen
As all of us who work with children know – stress and anxiety are not only for those with bills to pay and families to feed.

Anxiety and Acting Out in Class
Last week in my kids’ yoga class one of the boys was acting unusually defiant. He was acting out and not following the rules to the point where he ended up crashing into one of the other kids in the class. No one was permanently injured – but he was not happy to be sitting out for part of the game we were playing.

This was near the end of the class, so when we finished he left the yoga class sullen. He slumped onto the bench beside his mom who was picking him up. Of course she wanted to know what was wrong and I joined in to talk about what was happening.

It turned out my student was having trouble with one of the other kids at school who they called a Bully. The bully was making fun of my student because he sometimes stutters. Plus the bully was always telling everyone what to do and generally trying to be the boss of the whole soccer game at recess.

No one likes the bully!
My student, who not only has the stutter going on but is a small sized kid too, especially dislikes the bully . He couldn’t think of one nice thing to say about that kid (I asked if there was one – nope there wasn’t).

It turns out my student has been getting more and more upset with this situation. He told me, “I’m just going to be bad too.” This is his solution, he was becoming a bully too. He wasn’t open to any other suggestions nor did he care about the consequences.

But his mood lifted as he talked about it and as he headed off home I told him I wanted to hear how it was going next week.

It got me to thinking how so many of our problems are caused by thinking of what we don’t like, and even starting to become like it! Like the audio below says – we become like a fly who will sit on a beautiful cupcake, then sit on a pile of manure. Like my student – what is good thinking and what is bad thinking is lost on the fly.

In Part One of this post about Kids and Anxiety lets examine what thought is. This 7 minute audio from my meditation teacher, Tulshi Sen, gives a poignant story that you can tell the kids.

The Three Types of Thinking: Worm, Fly, & Bee
Kids will contemplate what kind of thinking they do.

Audio: How We Can Take Charge of Our Thinking
by Tulshi Sen (7 min, 56 sec)

In Part Two I’ll update you on the progress of my student and the bully and pass on Part Two of the audio as well.

We know, when kids don’t figure out how to deal with bullies – they end up facing them over and over again. Many kids who are bullied and switch schools to deal with it, end up being bullied at the new school as well.

Let’s examine what can empower kids to handle the situation for themselves.

Aruna Humphrys

P.S. If you want to find more inspiring talks from Tulshi Sen – you can link to them here. I highly recommend putting your name in for the Ancient Secrets of Success newsletter. I know it has helped me find ideas to explain the concepts of yoga and meditation to children in a way that inspires them.

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  1. Just found your blog and I'm really enjoying it. This audiofile on Worm, Fly and Bee Thinking is really great. I must be on a roll because I've been getting similar "Bee Thinking" messages for the last two weeks.

  2. Today’s fast-paced lifestyle coupled with the economic downturn as resulted in rising stress levels amongst the populace. Add to that the anxieties of inter-personal relationship issues and we have a recipe for disaster.

    Not to worry! With the plethora of holistic healing modalities available to us today, we can now take our mental and physical health into our own hands. In fact, many treatments for anxiety are low-cost and some are even free!

    Let’s start with a free one; turn off the TV! That’s right. Much of our anxiety comes to us via the media. Just for a day or two see how you feel without television news beaming doom and gloom into your living room. Put on some soft instrumental music instead. Light some candles and run yourself a hot bath. Just thinking about it makes me relaxed!

  3. Thanks Ganga – I love the Bee Aware Campaign -that would be a fun code word/vocabulary to use in kids yoga class.

  4. It’s amazing how disconnected the worm and the fly are from their own experiences. The bee is in tune with the body and the feelings of landing on the most precious flowers and drawing the nectar. With aimed focus the bee produces the honey. The more I meditate and contemplate on the Four Proclamations, the more easily I can shift into instant awareness. “Bee Aware” is my new campaign wherever I go.